A friend told me that she told her mum she will not bring her boyfriend to meet her grandparents during Chinese New Year. Her mum asked why and she said she may not want to marry her boyfriend. When she told me this, I was quite shock because I know that she really love her boyfriend a lot and they dated for years already. I asked why she wouldn't marry him.
She said because of his character. Apparently his temper is not very good and will vent it on her when he is in a bad mood. He seems to care about himself first.
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Not many people can love others more than they love themselves. Correct me if I am wrong. I just feel that there are many selfish people. Or I met many selfish people (including myself).
I understand the feeling of loving myself more than others because I am like that too. This is unfortunately one of the big problems in relationship.
We, being the selfish kings and queens always demand others to give in to us, to dote us and to put us in the first place. But honestly speaking, isn't that too selfish when we couldn't do the same and yet we expect for it?
I can understand why my friend would feel that way, because when she talked to me about it last time, I already predicted that this would happen sooner or later. She realise that she will suffer when she marry who he is now. Will her love be great enough to accept his flaws or will the boyfriend love her so much that he is going to change? Or will they choose to love themselves more? It is really very hard to say who is right and who is wrong. But if the boyfriend know how to cherish her in the first place, she wouldn't have come to this dilemma.
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My conclution is relationship is so irritating. Love is not the only important thing in relationship, character is one of the important factors that couldn't be ignored.
If there is love, but the character of that person cannot make it, I would leave him.
If both exist, I will marry him.
